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cportwine
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Posted: 23 October 2008 06:17 pm |
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Ok, going to my moms this weekend and probably will see some people I haven't seen in a long time. We are going to this Halloween thing that they have every year to raise money for the town.
Anyway, I know one of my old friends and her family will probably be there, and a few other that I know, and haven't seen for awhile.
I am so freaked out about it. I don't know why, just am. I should be happy, with the weight loss and all. But, I know someone will say something stupid and tick me off. I can just hear the whispers now.
Wow, is Cindy anorectic now or what. It's like people have never heard about being healthy and in shape. 
I also, want to be good about my eating, but I don't want people to think that I don't eat either. You know what I mean. It's so hard sometimes.
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kendra
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Posted: 23 October 2008 07:33 pm |
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| I think you will do just fine, at least you will know some people there. And look at it this way if they start talking, who cares, you are happy with yourself and they don't see you everyday. If they do talk it is just out of jealousy. Be proud of what you have accomplished, it is a hard thing to overcome or we all would be skinny. Keep your head up and walk in like you own the place.....and Good Luck
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DoublePoppa
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Posted: 23 October 2008 09:26 pm |
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You can't do anything about people talking about you behind your back. If they do it, then who cares. If they say something petty to your face, then ask them why they said that. Ask them firmly and then just be silent and let them answer.
Honestly though I don't think it will happen unless these people are shallow and non supportive of you. In that case don't let them tear you down. They obviously are going through their own issues that manifest in trying to bring you down.
Be above anything like that. This is one of the best things you've ever done, to take your health and your well being seriously. You are going to live longer and enjoy life more because of this. If some people from your past can't appreciate what a beautiful thing that is then shame on them.
Good luck and be awesome. =-)
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OnceUpon-A-ThinGirl
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Posted: 23 October 2008 10:06 pm |
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No worries Cindy, I know you'll knock their socks off!!
I understand where you're coming from though. Wouldn't it be nice if you could depend on family and friends to be just supportive and happy to see you? I have to contend with a grandma who thinks anorexic is fat, I can never be thin enough for her. And I know everyone will say oh wow you look great. And the irony is I'll think the whole time, didn't you guys like me before, what was so wrong with me? I'm glad to be healthy but I didn't lose weight so you would think I "look" acceptable.
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DoublePoppa
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Posted: 23 October 2008 10:17 pm |
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If I may so say that reaction stinks OnceUpon. You've done a great job. You are losing weight. You are getting healthier. Yet you can spin someone's compliments around negatively. We are all great people. Excess weight is not a good thing. We all realize this and hopefully that is what brought us all here.
We are all amazing people no matter what our weight is. No way around it. No argument can change my mind. Our weight has nothing to do with our value. Push that thought out of your minds. But #%@&! is it good that we are all losing weight. Our hearts and lungs and arteries and family members thank us.
A change had to be made. Did it not? Life is too short to always be thinking that everyone is always judging us. Most of the time other people are thinking about themselves, thinking about what others think about them, or just living in the moment. Living in the moment sounds the best to me. Good luck Amigos and Amigas.
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cportwine
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Posted: 23 October 2008 10:49 pm |
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OnceUpon-A-ThinGirl wrote: No worries Cindy, I know you'll knock their socks off!!
I understand where you're coming from though. Wouldn't it be nice if you could depend on family and friends to be just supportive and happy to see you? I have to contend with a grandma who thinks anorexic is fat, I can never be thin enough for her. And I know everyone will say oh wow you look great. And the irony is I'll think the whole time, didn't you guys like me before, what was so wrong with me? I'm glad to be healthy but I didn't lose weight so you would think I "look" acceptable.
God, I am so like that. I still hold grudges against people who try and talk to me now that would when I was fat. I don't know why I care. I should go have fun and not worry about a thing.
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OnceUpon-A-ThinGirl
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Posted: 23 October 2008 11:44 pm |
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DoublePoppa wrote: If I may so say that reaction stinks OnceUpon. You've done a great job. You are losing weight. You are getting healthier. Yet you can spin someone's compliments around negatively. We are all great people. Excess weight is not a good thing. We all realize this and hopefully that is what brought us all here.
Oh I agree Poppa. But you have to know where I'm coming from. It is totally unacceptable to be heavy in my family. That's part of the reason I became anorexic in the first place. The people who compliment me now, used to call me fat to my face, and I honestly don't have it in me to forgive them.
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cportwine
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Posted: 24 October 2008 02:59 am |
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OnceUpon-A-ThinGirl wrote: DoublePoppa wrote: If I may so say that reaction stinks OnceUpon. You've done a great job. You are losing weight. You are getting healthier. Yet you can spin someone's compliments around negatively. We are all great people. Excess weight is not a good thing. We all realize this and hopefully that is what brought us all here.
Oh I agree Poppa. But you have to know where I'm coming from. It is totally unacceptable to be heavy in my family. That's part of the reason I became anorexic in the first place. The people who compliment me now, used to call me fat to my face, and I honestly don't have it in me to forgive them.
I would have a hard time with that also. You have to drawl a line somewhere and say hey, don't treat me like that. It's just self defense, as far as I am concerned. If were not willing to stick up for ourselves then who else will.
But, there is allot to be said about forgiveness. I wouldn't know, I struggle with forgiving people.
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ShannonOfDoom
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Posted: 24 October 2008 03:28 am |
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Family are like a stress farm! Relax they will either be
a) really happy for you
b) really jealous of you
either option is GOOD.
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DoublePoppa
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Posted: 24 October 2008 04:04 am |
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I think most people are really horrible communicators. I can even begin to know your whole story but if you deep in your heart know that these people care about you then you have to be able to admit that maybe they were concerned about you.
If they were being malicious then I am sorry for that. When you feel like an outsider in your family I can imagine how horrible that must feel.
Either way. From the bit that I've seen of you, you are a pretty well rounded person. Wonderful, kind and gentle. You are all you ever need to be right now. Any personal improvement is for you and you alone. Because if you never improve one iota the world will still be a better place for having both you and cportwine in it.
Good luck Senoritas
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johnclave
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Posted: 3 March 2011 07:36 am |
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On every weekend there is getting stressed on the every last day of weekend bcz u have to work hard and then get relaxed.
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MoniqueDiet
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Posted: 25 May 2011 03:47 am |
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You'll do just fine, no worries 
~Monique
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