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DoublePoppa
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Posted: 21 October 2008 10:58 pm |
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What do part of your body do you try to hide? What do you wish you could change about yourself? What childhood memory sticks with you to this day? Time to get it off your chest.
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DoublePoppa
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Posted: 21 October 2008 11:08 pm |
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To get the ball rolling I will go first.
I have big issues with my stomach and love handles. The rest of my body isn't too bad. Without this area of my body I think I'd be fine. I'd still want to diet but I would care that much. Yet whenever I put on clothes and look in the mirror my eyes immediately look towards my midsection to see if it is apparent in the outfit I am wearing. If it is then I don't wear it.
I often wear many layers when I want to look good because it gives my body structure and doesn't emphasize that section of my body. This stinks especially during a South Florida summer. I don't want to have to wear a blazer to feel like I look good especially when it is 90 degrees out with ridiculous humidity.
I'll also add a memory. When I was about six years old I was going for a swim test at a public pool. I was already chubby by this point and always wore my shirt in the pool. But for the test I couldn't wear my shirt. I felt vulnerable and exposed. As I am walking to the pool I hear two kids laughing while looking at me. All I heard was "fat" and "hanging over"(I can only presume they were talking about my stomach". It made me feel awful and was the first time I remember feeling that way because of my weight.
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MidgeH
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Posted: 22 October 2008 12:15 am |
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Oh, my. Is "nose to knees" a body part?
If I have to pick one I'm going to go with my neck. It's getting better but it's always been huge. (my whole head is a huge melon. Seriously, I can't wear hats.) At my highest weight basically I went head --> chest, my neck causing my head to look like one big block. I never really had a double chin - I had NO chin.
I've lost a couple of inches off my neck, but everytime I see a picture of me from the side I just cringe. Terrible, terrible profile.
My stomach (apple!) runs a close second. My childhood memory of this is boys in 5th or 6th grade shooting blow darts at my midsection and laughing as they bounced off (actually thank goodness 'cuz that would have hurt!)
Last edited on 22 October 2008 12:18 am by MidgeH
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DoublePoppa
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Posted: 22 October 2008 12:29 am |
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LOL I liked that post. Lots of cool personality there Midge. Don't worry I too have an oversized head that cannot wear hats. Hurts for fashion and sucks when Im at the fair and the caricature artist is actually drawing me to proportionately  , but oh well. High five for big heads.
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Butterfly_Hourglass
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Posted: 22 October 2008 03:48 am |
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I hate my stomach and thighs. My stomach, mostly because it's the only thing I can't hide on a day to day basis. It's huge, round, blubbery, and my friends know I'm ticklish there. My fat jiggles worse than jello during a ground splitting earthquake while on top of a unstable table.
I wish they wouldn't touch or jiggle my blubber. T-T
I wish my legs didn't touch all the time, it just bugs the heck out of me to feel the fat, plus being in sports isn't very fun when you run around with legs of jello.
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cportwine
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Posted: 22 October 2008 01:59 pm |
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Wow, glad to see we got this on here......
Ok, mine is my stomach. I have never in my whole life had a nice stomach. I would seriously have to be underweight to have a flat stomach.
This time after losing weight, now it's just plain gross. Extra skin, dimpling look to it. Nasty!
I would get a tummy tuck if I could afford it. But, I am not rich, so I just keep exercising hoping by some miracle it will go away.
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BEC950
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Posted: 22 October 2008 02:40 pm |
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Oh if there were a magic thigh pill I would take it. Sometimes it feels like I am only losing trying to lose weight to slim down my thighs.
I am quite happy with my stomach, it is flat (although my hips are kind of big) but I find thighs are the hardest things to cover with clothes. The best item of clothing I have found to cover big thighs is a skirt (I like pencil skirts).
I find it really hard to find nice jeans with big thighs because that's the part that should look the best in jeans and my thigh area always looks so tight in jeans. Maybe one day I will have nice skinny thighs.
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cportwine
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Posted: 22 October 2008 03:52 pm |
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BEC950 wrote: Oh if there were a magic thigh pill I would take it. Sometimes it feels like I am only losing trying to lose weight to slim down my thighs.
I am quite happy with my stomach, it is flat (although my hips are kind of big) but I find thighs are the hardest things to cover with clothes. The best item of clothing I have found to cover big thighs is a skirt (I like pencil skirts).
I find it really hard to find nice jeans with big thighs because that's the part that should look the best in jeans and my thigh area always looks so tight in jeans. Maybe one day I will have nice skinny thighs.
My daughter has big thighs from gymnastics and power lifting. She swears by hollister jeans, saying there the only kind that will fit her in the leg area.
Just thought I would pass on the info.
I like pensil skirts to. I think they have a natural way of making us all seem thinner.
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DaniMae1
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Posted: 22 October 2008 07:09 pm |
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| My stomach is horrible. Stretch marks from #%@&! from my first kid! I didn't even get very big with him, but apparently my skin has NO elasticity. Sucks for me. I wasn't fat as a kid, so I can't comment on that part of it.
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sweet kisses
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Posted: 22 October 2008 10:05 pm |
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I've never been like BIG or anything. With the exception of very recently, I've always been a healthy weight, at least. But my whole life I've always been on the chunky side of healthy and growing up all my friends were really skinny. So even though I've never technically been FAT--well, perception is everything. I specifically remember in the 6th grade, I didn't really know about BMI and what was a healthy weight and what wasn't. All I knew was what looked good, and what didn't.
My teacher that year had this thing if you didn't get your assignment book signed by your parents each night, you spent the next day at recess copying dictionary pages. I'm forgetful and spent most of the year really getting to know my vocabulary. lol And one day I came across the word "obese". I don't remember exactly what it said, but it was something like "a person who is severely overweight and carries an excess of body fat". It was a new word to me at the time--I'd never heard it before. But it described perfectly what I felt about myself. So that night I stood in front of the mirror poking my jiggly parts and thinking to myself over and over that I was obese. Just kind of trying it out on myself. Almost like you'd try on shirt to see if it fits you. I think that's also the first time I ever thought about dieting and exercising to lose weight.
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OnceUpon-A-ThinGirl
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Posted: 23 October 2008 03:41 am |
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| My belly hands down. I have the worst stretch marks of anyone I've ever known. I honestly think I could make a record for the widest stretch mark ever! And it's just huge, I hate it, that's where I store the majority of my weight.
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BEC950
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Posted: 23 October 2008 07:37 pm |
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cportwine wrote: My daughter has big thighs from gymnastics and power lifting. She swears by hollister jeans, saying there the only kind that will fit her in the leg area.
Unfortunatly we don't have a Hollister up here. I went into one in Minneapolis when I was down there last year but all the jeans where to short. I need a 35" length as I have pretty long legs.
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christyandmuddy
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Posted: 24 October 2008 05:49 pm |
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My trouble spots are my butt and thighs. I've found that if I wear a longer shirt that is cut to emphasize the waist then I can draw attention away from my big bottom. I hardly ever wear shorts because I'm self-conscious about my thighs, which means I'm usually sweating in pants even during the Florida summers. If I could I would suck all the fat out of my butt and thighs and put it into my chest to kind of balance myself out.
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cportwine
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Posted: 24 October 2008 06:14 pm |
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| Doesn't it suck how we are built sometimes. I think I could actually get away with being heavier if I had some boobs to balance out my shape. It's so fricking frustrating at times...
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MidgeH
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Posted: 24 October 2008 07:09 pm |
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| See that's how I feel about hips and thighs - I would gladly take a few more inches there to get rid of a few in my stomach...
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Scribbler
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Posted: 30 October 2008 03:16 pm |
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I very carefully screen what I wear to make sure it doesn't show any of my folds or fatty bulges (like those folds of fat on my back -- yuck!).
By far the most annoying part of me though is my thighs. Specifically the upper part of my thighs. For as long as I can remember my inner thighs have touched and thus rub together when I walk, jog, run. Lots of problems result from this, as I'm sure most of you know. ;P The three most annoying, frustrating ones for me are these:
Shorts and pants wear out much more quickly than they would otherwise from the friction. This especially bugs me because I hate and despise shopping for pants.
Because I hate shopping for pants (and they wear through so quickly, it's like throwing good money after bad. But I'm extremely cheap -- er, I mean, frugal), I mostly wear skirts and dresses for work. So when the friction gets bad for whatever reason, it gets really, really painful. Talk about injury to insult.
And insult to injury; thanks to all the excess baggage down there, my options for fitness shorts is severely limited. The loose ones get hiked up by the fat, no way am I wearing skintight ones, and I really don't want to wear jean material or pants of any variety to work out in! All of which means I have to be really, really, really motivated to go jogging out of doors. Good thing I'm fine sweating with my DVDs. And the hiking up issue doesn't happen with Tae Bo and Turbo Jam.
Tae Bo and Turbo Jam have definitely given me muscles in my thighs, and I think I might be loosing a smidgen of fat from the inner thighs, but still a long way to go. I've read somewhere that the first place you gain is the last place you loose. Honestly, I'm having trouble imagining not having that fat there. I'll probably go a bit hysterical when it happens! :D
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hzleyez86
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Posted: 3 November 2008 03:44 pm |
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| My stomach. I know I wear 99% of my weight on my lower body so I try to make it appear as much as possible that I have a flat stomach, which includes sucking in at all times, buy pants and undies one size larger so that there is no chance of them cutting into my skin for it to appear as if i have love handles and a muffin top. I wonder sometimes if it would be easier to lose a big stomach than to lose tree trunk thighs, hip fat and a huge butt.
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thescientist
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Posted: 9 November 2008 07:03 pm |
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| Definetly the sides of my waist. Although I've been steadily losing weight over the past year or so, it seems whatever extra I'm carrying is right on the outside of stomach. It stinks because my upper body seems to have a nice 'V' shape going down into my abdomen, but then bulges out right on my sides. My belly isn't too bad, and wouldn't harldy even be an issue if it wasn't for my stupid love handles...I can only pinch the extra fat around them, so maybe I just have a wider waist, but I would really like my sides to be more propotional to the upper body that's joing them. What's even worse is I only weigh 176 and 5'11", so everyone kind of assumes I'm in shape, but I never dare to take of my shirt if I can help it. Last edited on 9 November 2008 07:07 pm by thescientist
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Widget
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Posted: 12 November 2008 05:23 pm |
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I have NEVER been ok with my stomach area. I'm 5'11 and I have long slender legs that have never been effected by weight gain (maybe a little in the butt, but I could use some help there). But when my tummy gets bigger, it drives me crazy, i feel disproportionate and silly. I have never felt as if it's under control, there's always been these three stupid rolls that mock me every time i sit down...These days my love handles have taken over as well, I can grab them and pull them around and I absolutely HATE it!
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thenicole
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Posted: 2 February 2009 11:31 am |
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I read through this thread and agreed wholeheartedly with most every one's posts. So yes, my problem area is my lower body: stomach and thighs. But if I could lose weight first in any areas, it would be my face and my hands.
My sisters and I all have very distinguished features, and we used to all look very alike. Since I've gained so much weight, I dont really look like them anymore. I cant stand people to even look at me because I know my face is so fat now. Which sucks, because I still feel like I'm pretty like I used to be on the inside. And my hands, I used to have very dainty small hands. My husband has given me the most beautiful wedding set and I had to get it sized up to an 8.5 (where my first set was a 6!). My fingers are all puffy around my ring, I just want to hide them all the time. I would love to just feel comfortable in my body again, feel pretty and sexy to my husband.
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sqzee
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Posted: 2 February 2009 01:51 pm |
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My stomach definatily. I've always wanted a flat stomach! Other areas annoy me too of course, and now I've been loosing weight it might not be my stomach that I hate the most, I might and start hating something else
Anyway. Worst memory? I went to this crazy school Nurse. We had to see her each year. She nagged on me for drinking lemonade. Then when I stopped she nagged on me for not drinking milk. When I then a year after explained how much milk I drank at home, and that was the reason I didn't have milk in school, she nagged on me for drinking too much milk!
Anyway this one time where she was doing her normal stuff we talked about food and health and so on. I said yes it bothered me of course, but not so much. She asked if I had been teased, or if comments had been made and stuff. I said no, which was true. Then she suggests I go to fat camp. And I have to sign up NOW NOW so I can get in in april (this was sometime in fall) because I will only get fatter and fatter.
Now, this is not some normal fat camp in the summer. This one is well-known. And you are pulled out of school for it. For months. She suggests this to a 12/13 year-old! I don't believe I weighed more than I do now. Some of my clothes from then I fit, and some are to small. I weigh 69kg and am 160cm.
Don't ever tell a little kid she needs to go to fat camp without consulting family first. It was very upsetting, and in the end, not very helpful. She definatily overreacted.
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Jodi S
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Posted: 24 February 2009 05:05 pm |
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| I recently got married and had my first child. Now I'm trying to shed that pregnancy weight. I always wanted to have a flat stomach, but since my kid was born I am far from that. My husband keeps reassuring me that I look beautiful, but I don't feel beautiful. I made a deal with my husband that I will lose 10 pounds over the month, and he promised to buy me jewelry if I reached my goal. The end of the month finally came and I did it! Now I am searching for special bracelet to be a great reminder to me that I can lose weight. I used the JIC [http://www.jic.org] website to help me pick out a charm bracelet. The JIC website helps with jewelry information, but they also have endearing stories. Everybody has a story, and it's nice to hear your not a alone. Attached Image (viewed 395 times):
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Cii
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Posted: 25 February 2009 02:31 am |
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I'm fat and happy, but they don't many close for people like me, so I guess my belly and its all stretching sticking-outie-ness, and my shoulders, very wide, hard to find shirts and blazers.
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ShannonOfDoom
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Posted: 26 February 2009 01:39 am |
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my arms...they're huge...they're wider than my face & I cant hide them, if they're bare of course you can see them but when I wear something to cover them the layer of fabric makes them look even larger.
Even in a photo where I think I look ok (lol at Shanes face though) they're like cows legs.
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KmcK
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Posted: 13 March 2009 09:57 pm |
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my stomach is blubbery and my inner thighs.
i at one time was almost up to 200lbs and im petite frame. so i got down to 125lbs as my lowest weight and can i tell you my stomach and thighs looked the same (to me) i was wearing size 6 (from an 18) and i was happier and wearing better clothes but when i took the clothes off..my stomach was still blubbery and my thighs still were wobbley..so i ended up gaining about 30lbs again..where i am now..and i say all the time that if i could get back down to that size 6..i will be happy with my jiggly tummy and gross thighs.
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Nancy_in_GA
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Posted: 14 March 2009 02:12 am |
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| Hands down it's my knees. Even when I lose weight, the knees are still bigger than the thigh just above them. Any shorts have to be cut at just the right level or it makes them look even worse. So I don't wear shorts.
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BJD74
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Posted: 18 March 2009 04:13 pm |
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my story? hmm....well i am by default i think, a natural hourglass...only i am covered in all this masss of blubber!!! AAAHG.... as i am losing, from the side i see my "pooch" the area of my abdomen that has this roll around from the one hip to the other? it is now only one roll instead of 2 or 3...my upper abs and ribs area is flat, my chest is even smaller now...it has never been "large" just average on a larger body... :(
I have lost 18.5 inches since august and the things i now see more clearly are the bottom belly, the pooch, my arse that is still very there and my hips, with that little bit of thigh that still rubs! ARGH...not all of the walking or bowflex will ever get that gone!! I SWEAR!!!! My thighs are finally an inch smaller each, from a 24 to 23inches...but darn it if they still dont look large and flabby to me. :( My upper arms used to be the thing i was most AWARE of, because living in the southwest or west coast you dress with sleeveless ALOT.....i was tan and let it slide without a lot of self imposed drama and i could always cover my thighs and tummy...i was drowning in a river of denial i daresay because lookin back at pictures i am horrified i was as bloated as i appeared to look?
I put on my summer clothes now since the weather is coming back around to be warmer here and i see how much i have lost. My tummy still fills the gaps but the shorts etc obviously "bag up now in the lower belly area" and my thighs are still "flubbery with the dimply look" (to me anyway) but they are smaller. I am happy with that. I am walking more again, so hopefully that will start to move some of the cellulite and FAT and make it go away! My arms, shoulders area are awesome now, due to the work outs with bowflex but i havent given up on getting rid of that flop flop that occurs when you hold your arm out to the side straight? the triceps flop flop?
Overall, I cant say i hate myself anymore. To say that after 18.5 inches and about 15 pds would be folly and foolish and plain silly! But, I have to tighten it up now. Sure, I wish my chest was bigger, breasts okay the breasts not the chest...sorry....But i refuse a boob job or altering of any sort...so I have what God graced me with and I will just enjoy them the best I can. I do hate when I lay on my back that they kinda fall away to sides and i appear to have nothing at all? My hubby adores them and sais always there is more than enough...but? well? you know? I wouldnt mind a LITTLE MORE??? to balance the top and the bottom better??
Ahhhh to be blissfully happy with our bodies would mean we are not on this site! I know I will never be perfect, but I sure cant wait to be Just Right! :)
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KmcK
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Posted: 18 March 2009 06:48 pm |
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| We call tricep flip flop ... Oprah Arms...lol
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gerald
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Posted: 20 March 2009 05:04 pm |
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It would have to be my stomach. My whole family is fit, even my father who is turning 60 soon has a six pack, I used to work hard and keeping my stomach flat but as you all know it gets harder and harder. My wife and I had our first baby this past January and the months leading up to that and following it have killed me, I was a solid 200 and I liked the way I looked and right now I'm at 256. since I gained back the weight so fast my wardrobe is still all the old stuff and all of it accentuates my stomach which is always sticking out, I can't suck it in or anything. I hate it and it frustrates me to the point of tears.
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BJD74
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Posted: 20 March 2009 05:21 pm |
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i feel your pain! you have made an important first step to change already Gerald! You came here and put a message out to the world. We are here to help and support you and we are all struggling with losing fat and weight and gaining muscle self esteem confidence knowledge about eating right for ourselves and loved ones...and you can be a part of our lives and we can change together! :)
start with anything you can work into our busy schedule with a new baby! I bet you could enlist your wife in some abdomenal work, by doing crunches together while you watch your favorite show or anything that works for you! requires nothing and maybe youll both get a kick out of it and laugh together too! :) we have a 3.5 yr old and i am on a path of loss and toning my figure..three years now i have been a regular walker outdoors and indoors with leslie sansome videos. all her workouts integrate walking and working the ab area of the body by using upper body too. Its great stuff! I did it pre and post my baby girl...and i never bore of her. she is very engaging and fun! then we made the purchase for a bowflex home gym, its 23 a month and it saves me packing and heading to a gym, esp since we live outside of town! i do it while she naps in the early afternoon and in the afternoon during the 5 days hubbys at work. takes 20-45 minutes depending on the day!!!!  I have lost 18.5 in off my body since aug and its due to both of those and healthy eating habits being made by me and only me, since hubby and M can eat anything and gain nothing... :( Lucky! Blessed! So this has been my journey, i keep a food diary, and come here and participate regularly...made some dear friends on here. Count on them somedays, many days when food is the demon to me....i cant stay away!
So check out the site, if you can find time start small, take baby for walks, i walked M and our two labs daily on the ditches here where we live. Or the tapes, even if i wasnt dieting at the time, i nursed till 2. :) Had ability to eat whatever, exercise and maintain small losses along the way! Only since Nov have I been committed to eating different and exercising regularly! But its hard! !!! !!  
We all have good and bad days, just check out the challenges area of the forum and the diaries...they tell alot and you will probably relate alot! :) Its fun! :) You learn about yourself here! :) I think all my friends would agree...and welcome again! :)
PS..its always ok to cry, it makes anyone feel better and your body needs to release it some days, allow it to happen. accept what and who you are and move forward. its ok. you are not alone. we have all been there. you can change if you want too! it just takes time and patience and a LOT of LOVE.
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LaurieMarie
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Posted: 21 April 2009 06:41 pm |
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I am not even sure how to start this. I have not really been open about my body because I hide the fact that I have been gaining weight lately. Hoodies do wonders for me! I don't want to completely bore you with when it all started. I will tell you this i hate gaining weight. It all seems to go either to the hip & thighs or straight to the stomach! This is something i severely want to change. Not because i want to impress other people i want to look in that mirror when i step out of the shower and smile and not see this belly that i have I want to wear a 2 piece bathing suit and not have to wear a tank top over it. i want to go out with my husband and feel good about my thighs not touching together! I am not sure where to start, i am not sure what would be the best way to o about this losing weight thing. I know all the wrong ways of losing weight. Been there done that, my husband would kill me if i did it the wrong way. He tells me all the time that i am fine the way i am so he is not all that happy that i want to be 105 pounds, but i want to love my body and not look in the mirror and want to vomit by the sight of my body!! I got all the tattoos that i have to show people that i love them and now i cant show them off because i am hiding underneath hoodies and baggy pants! i am ready to change!
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Karels.le
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Posted: 22 April 2009 08:32 am |
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I am one of those people who hides as well. Is 105 lbs a realistic long term goal for you or just a random number tossed out for example? I've been told that 134 to 145 is ideal weight for me but it sounds so low! Maybe because I have been at such a high # for too long?
I have noticed though that not hiding behind baggy clothes helps make you feel better and it more flattering. The better you feel I think... it helps make it seem a bit down hill from there... As if the biggest hurdle is to accept yourself and not worry about other people. Only worry about you!
For me losing weight isn't just about being able to pass a fitness test and to feel good about myself but to know that I'm am doing a preventative measure to not die from obesity related problems! It's just not a way to go!
I used to tell my friends that I would rather die with wrinkles from smiling that wrinkles from frowning! I dunno if that makes any sense here...?
Aww! Gerald has a tiny baby in his photo! ^_^
Last edited on 22 April 2009 08:37 am by Karels.le
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Beth
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Posted: 22 April 2009 02:33 pm |
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| I have issues with my fat stomach and skinny butt. It is hereditary. My mom and grandmother have the same problem and they aren't even fat.
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LaurieMarie
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Posted: 22 April 2009 03:15 pm |
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I guess 105 is a weight i thought would be good for my height! Maybe not so low. Just something smaller. Getting stretch marks at 23 and being that I was always so small just kills me! I really want to do this for me. Everyone I talk to always tells me that I am fine, but I really just want to be happy when I look in the mirror! I know that losing weight is a lot of work. Thats the other problem I have. I work 60-70 hours a week. 8 in the morning to 8 at night. so its really had for me to get the time to exercise. I do however have a puppy who loves to run and he too needs exercise just as much as i do! Getting home around 8:30 cooking dinner & doing a little bit of laundry. By that time I just want to go to bed.
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Karels.le
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Posted: 22 April 2009 05:42 pm |
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I saw a saying yesterday that said, "If your dog is fat, you aren't getting enough exercise!"
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So are you a pretty healthy weight now? Maybe just a little squishy flab sorta? Cuz maybe then doing brief intense weight training sessions would work for you. I heard of people doing a work out 2- 3 days/week for 10 to 15 mins (with a brief cardio warm up and stretching), then get weights or on a machine and try to do the max possible weight you can do. Like the weight that's right before you feel muscle failure and start to get shaky. Try to do the range of motions as slowly as possible. Then to keep heart rate up you can do a little cardio in between for a few seconds (jumping jacks/jogging in place). You have to make sure you do it right though because you can hurt yourself with bad posture and what not.
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Karels.le
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Posted: 22 April 2009 05:52 pm |
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I'll also add a memory. When I was about six years old I was going for a swim test at a public pool. I was already chubby by this point and always wore my shirt in the pool. But for the test I couldn't wear my shirt. I felt vulnerable and exposed. As I am walking to the pool I hear two kids laughing while looking at me. All I heard was "fat" and "hanging over"(I can only presume they were talking about my stomach". It made me feel awful and was the first time I remember feeling that way because of my weight.
That's really sad! I hate the whole teasing thing and kids can be cruel! My older brother has the same problems but he doesn't do anything to fix it.
He gets swollen ankles if standing too long, he has a huge flap gut that hang out and over his jeans and and you can clearly see he's got excess weight on his facial structure too. I know he could be healthier.
He recently hurt his back at work by bending over and lifting it up. He did not have strong enough back muscles and he probably went about lifting it wrong. Now he has a bulging disc and can't support his family!
Growing up his friend's playfully joked with him about his weight and he learned to joke back and "accept" himself. By "accept" I mean he's in denial hardcore.
Since high blood pressure and heart complications run in the male side of the family it really scares me but I can't force someone to change. 
I too have a little female pooch gut going on and as soon as I can I plan on starting some pilates type core training with a class. Until then I am on my own... well and here with all you people.
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kats12
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Posted: 22 April 2009 06:54 pm |
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LaurieMarie, I wish you all the best! You will find plenty of support in this wonderful group!! I know exactly how you feel. Stay positive! We are here for ya. 
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LaurieMarie
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Posted: 24 April 2009 12:25 am |
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Thank you very much, there not many people i can talk to about my weight issues.
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Karels.le
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Posted: 25 April 2009 06:01 am |
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I normally have a hard time too. Lately I'm feeling better about chatting with people.
SHANNON! That picture is so cute!
I have big arms too.. Makes it hard to find nice clothes. Like the shirt fits but not the sleeves!
In fact.. My calves are huge too. That's mostly muscle though. I have never been able to find a cute pair of shoes/ boots that go up that high.. no way to zip them, lace them and those ones with elastic don't work either. Strangely what does work is Men's lace up work boots and Doc Martin's but not nice fancy girl stuff!
But you know.. Men's work shoes are WAAAY more comfy than women's high heel shoes! lol
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miss katz
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Posted: 16 July 2009 03:00 am |
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"What do part of your body do you try to hide? What do you wish you could change about yourself? What childhood memory sticks with you to this day? Time to get it off your chest."
I try to hide my two bellies. I don't have one big belly. My body type has two big bellies. Hehe. Sometimes I think they are sexy, but usually I feel self conscious when people make stupid comments about my belly. Hmmm other than that I like everything else. I have sagging breasts but I still like them;) It took me years to come to terms with them, but they don't really bother me too much now. I realize that with a good bra I can change the way my body looks.
A childhood memory that sticks with me about my weight? Maybe my mom criticizing me about my weight and telling me I will never find a boyfriend because I am too fat.
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FatesLady
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Posted: 29 August 2009 05:34 am |
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I look great dressed, because my flabby thighs tend to cram nicely into a good pair of jeans and slim me down a ton. I also have a muffin top pooch that I can hide by sucking my gut in and standing straight. I have been in denial recently, thinking that if I can suck it in to look good enough dressed, I am obviously fine. I recently bought a scale that also tracks body fat percentages... mine was 33.2%. YIKES!
Talk about a wakeup call. I've always been slim and athletic, and I've always eaten #%@&!. Guess it's time to focus on doing the right thing for my body.
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kakki
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Posted: 1 September 2009 11:47 pm |
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| I have to agree with miss katz. All my my other body parts I can handle. Now keep in mind before my son and before I gained he 60lbs plus I had 2 tummys but I was shaped differently and never bothered me. It bothers me now.
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AshIdiot
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Posted: 4 September 2009 03:00 am |
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I'm glad this is here, I would feel pathetic making my own post in this section of the forum. I don't really know what my problem is. It changes all the time. Some days I think "I'm a healthy girl, I'm not as big as I think I am" and very soon after I can look at myself and think "holy #%@&! I need to lose 30 pounds." I really hate reading fitness magazines. The before pictures look like me, which can knock me down several pegs. Like this one woman on an ELEVEN MONTH JOURNEY who started out with 3% less body fat than me and she talks about how she's saggy and jiggly and enormous....aahhhh. I've been self-conscious about my calves and my biceps over the past couple years because I have FINALLY gained weight there. I thought I was just lucky to never have problems there but now that I do it's really upsetting. Sometimes I look in the mirror from behind and my arms look just fine, like I was imagining it. Then I check again later and it's all...bad. My thighs stick out 360 degrees, basically. Also I hate being in the car because everyone's thighs spread, my stomach hangs over the seat belt, the shoulder strap goes between my boobs and makes them look enormous...I hate my chest. I wish I wish I were absolutely flat. I would have them surgically removed if I could. I wonder if I have the BRCA genes...but what does it matter, I'm uninsured.
Growing up, people constantly asked me if I ever ate and whether I was anorexic. It's sad when you know the definition of the word at age 6, isn't it? But then puberty hit me like a train at 13 and BAM lovehandles, thighs, stomach pouch. I of course ate whatever I wanted because I loved racing my neighbors, gymnastics, trampolines, bike riding in the hills. But when the hormones kicked in and the puberty curves came in and I wondered what had happened to me so I stopped eating my usual fare (hot dogs, french fries, bacon, candy bars) and since they weren't caused by inactivity, they didn't go away. Instead they got worse when I got into the restrict-binge-restrict cycle. Then I got weak and tired from dehydration, etc and stopped being an active 14 year old. Dropped out of gymnastics and cheerleading and put on 20 pounds.
Then of course there's the fact that I'm hypercritical of myself. I can find something wrong with every inch of my body. Some days, like today, I asked myself what the point of losing weight was. Why bother losing weight, I asked myself, if I would still have my scaly skin disease? My overly crooked, yellow teeth? My poofy hair? My stretch marks? My granny hands? My darker-than-average body hair? It just seems like SO much work to be presentable to the world. I know I need to eat more nutritious foods and that I have a family history of cancer and heart disease and early death from those conditions. I know the food I binge on daily doesn't even taste good. But like I said earlier, I look in the mirror sometimes and don't see why I obsess over my weight. Then I look at the size tags of my clothes and think "oh my god, I have to starve myself for ten days to fit into size 11/12 jeans? What is wrong with me?" I better figure out something soon!
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AshIdiot
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Posted: 4 September 2009 03:01 am |
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FatesLady wrote: I recently bought a scale that also tracks body fat percentages... mine was 33.2%. YIKES!
Talk about a wakeup call. I've always been slim and athletic, and I've always eaten #%@&!. Guess it's time to focus on doing the right thing for my body.
I wouldn't pay much attention to those. I've owned three and one said 40%, the other said 26%, and the third one said 28%. All top name brands, too
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