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Theresa
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Posted: 15 January 2008 05:26 am |
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DeterminedGal wrote: Kudos to you for recognizing it.
I totally agree with DG! You will only go forward from now on because you overcame the biggest obstacle in recognising that. Keep going girl, I am so proud of you.
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suenos
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Posted: 15 January 2008 06:00 am |
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abnormalapathy wrote: Funny how one insignificant comment could trigger me to start feeling inadequate, Ohhh, I read that and thought "it's the 'fear' thing"......."With a fearful mind, we head immediately to the tiniest chance that something might go wrong, not the overwhelming majority which says that something is safe."....I memorized that and have been saying it like a mantra all week when my own little brain tries to "go there"
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abnormalapathy
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Posted: 15 January 2008 12:49 pm |
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Well, the boy and I had another great talk last night and we basically came to the conclusion that I'm like a sparkler. When things come up (for instance, his meeting new female friends - which is what this whole thing has been about), I spark and burn for a while and then I fizzle out. Meaning, I get angry, upset, frustrated, jealous, insecure and then as time goes on and I realize I have no reason to be those things, I move on to acceptance. Which is kinda true. I know I can't prevent it, so eventually I just let it go, even if I never really and truly like it. I guess it's taken this long (over 3 yrs) but we're finally starting to understand each other.
I say, it's amazing what a manicure can do for a girl. :)
Tuesday, 15 January 2008 (1450/1369-1869)
Snack: 1 small banana (90/2.6)
Breakfast: 1 (large) english muffin (140/2); 2 eggs (140); 1 slice cheese (90)
Snack: 1 SB PB Bar (140/3)
Lunch: 1 wrap with chicken, rice, red beans (450/6)
Dinner: 1 whole wheat brocolli empanada (150/3); 1 ham/cheese empanada (250/1)
Dessert: 1 Skinny Cow ice cream (150/3)
Water: 17 oz.
Fiber: 20.6 g
Last edited on 16 January 2008 01:14 am by abnormalapathy
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sheltiemom
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Posted: 15 January 2008 01:18 pm |
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| Oh, girl, I'm so envious! My mom and I were talking over the weekend about how it would be so wonderful to get away for awhile. You're going to look great and have so much fun! You go, girl!!!!!
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abnormalapathy
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Posted: 15 January 2008 03:49 pm |
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| Thanks Sheltie, this has been a dream of mine for a very long time and something I've been actively pursuing for 5+ years. The closest I got was in 2006 when I was signed up for a volunteer vacation and then couldn't go because I injured my knee and needed surgery. This has been a long time coming. :)
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abnormalapathy
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Posted: 16 January 2008 12:29 pm |
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Last night was another really good one. I've accepted the fact that I'm not going to reach my goal of walking 50 miles since school starts next week and I've only walked about 10. I've also accepted that not everything on my "to do" list will be crossed off, but that I've made some real progress in other ways instead. I am really ready for the semester to begin again. I need that structure, and also, though I love getting to spend time with friends, etc. it starts to add up financially. Also, I'm only 8 classes away from graduation, so I just want to get it over with already!
And financially speaking, I really need to get back to focusing on saving money. I'm about to pay off the Europe trip today in one fell swoop, and that's a little intimidating for me. I feel rather naked when I look at my savings account and see that it's completely decimated, especially when we have some large expenses coming up (like we're moving to a new apt in fall 2008) and yeah, we're supposed to be saving for a house.
16 January 2008 (1995/1369-1869)
Snack: 1 medium banana (105/3.1); 1 Dannon LaCreme yogurt (140/1)
Breakfast: 1 (large) english muffin (140/2); 2 eggs (140); 1 slice cheese (90)
Snack: 1/2 c green grapes (52/.7); 4 oz. baby carrots (40/2)
Lunch: 8 brussel sprouts (60/4.4); 1/2 c butternut squash (40/1); 1 oz avocado w/1/4 c rice (101/2.5); 3 oz chicken breast (141)
Party: 2 glasses white wine (160)
Dinner: chicken enchiladas, rice, black beans (786/10)
Water: 17 oz.
Fiber: 26.7 g
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abnormalapathy
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Posted: 17 January 2008 01:01 pm |
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I am showing a 0.6 gain for the week, bringing my weight to 196.6. I am fairly sure that this isn't actual 'weight gain' but rather that I'm retaining water. I say this because my fingers are pretty swollen, so my grandmother's ring is feeling rather tight on me. I only went over my upper limit calories (not even into my maintenance range either!) last night thanks to my imbibing in some wine and then following it up with a mexican meal, so I'm really sure this is more about sodium intake than overeating.
Tonight is a reunion for a company I used to work for about three years ago. I had been dreading it, but now that it's here, I'm excited to go. On the other hand, my grandfather is going in for prostate surgery this afternoon, so of course, that's on my mind today as well. I hope he'll be okay.
The trip to Europe is all paid off and though money might be tight for the next couple of weeks while I also adjust to a smaller paycheck (thanks to a pre-tax medical deduction, which is just a smart thing to do) as well. Now on to more pressing issues, like submitting the paperwork for my passport. In encouraging news, a friend of mine expedited his and they told him it would be back in 3 weeks and it was back in a week. So I have high hopes that my expediting it will have it back well in time of my departure. I mean I've got like 4 months. In any case, that is a project for Saturday morning indeed.
Thursday, 17 January 2008 (1104/1369-1869)
Breakfast: 1 medium banana (105/3.1); 1 egg sandwich (370/2); 1 Dannon LaCreme yogurt (140/1)
Lunch: Chicken teriyaki with 1/2 c white rice (489/1.7); 4 oz green tea
Water: 21 oz.
Fiber: 7.8 g
Last edited on 17 January 2008 05:18 pm by abnormalapathy
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hoofprints
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Posted: 17 January 2008 04:03 pm |
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My best wishes for your grandfather today.
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abnormalapathy
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Posted: 17 January 2008 05:15 pm |
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| Thanks, hoof. And best wishes to you with the craziness of a move and a new job, etc. :)
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hoofprints
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Posted: 18 January 2008 03:32 am |
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I thought about you a lot today...how did your Grandpa do? Hey and the move for me...small stuff now all the big stuff is done like house and job.
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suenos
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Posted: 18 January 2008 07:12 am |
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| Good deal on getting that trip paid off 4 months in advance! Hope all went well with your grandfather's surgery and your reunion (just because I'm nosy....what kind of a company has a reunion?)
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abnormalapathy
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Posted: 18 January 2008 02:00 pm |
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First off, my grandfather seems to be doing fine. I haven't seen him yet, but I'll be at the hospital this evening.
The reunion was awesome! I got the exact reaction I wanted from my ex-boss and I was the talk of the town (finally in a good way!). Seriously, all I kept hearing all night was "You look amazing! I love your hair! You look great!" It was kinda cool. Of course I drank too much and am totally feeling it today. Ugh.
Suenos, it's an investment company. However, the department (business development) starting splitting up when they went through the first merger, and now with the second merger, most people aren't there anymore. So it was nice to get everyone together - those who worked in this dept all the way back like ten years. Some people have retired so though I left the company three years ago, some of them I hadn't seen in 5 or 6. I worked there for about 7 years, so I knew almost everyone there.
Anyway, I can't estimate the calories on what I ate last night. And today, I feel STARVING.
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zenobia
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Posted: 18 January 2008 02:17 pm |
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happy to hear that your grandpa is doing ok! that must be a relief.
isn't it so awesome when you make a change for the better and you get to see people who knew you from way back when!? it's a great feeling- and you got to see your exs! i have sort of been hoping to run into some of mine, too!!!!
oh yeah, i am ALWAYS starving the day after i drink. it's because your dehydrated. drink tons of water, go easy on the salt, and it should help.
have a great one!
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abnormalapathy
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Posted: 18 January 2008 02:42 pm |
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| Hey zen, I see my exes - like relationship exes pretty often - so that's no biggie for me anymore. :) But I had this one previous boss who made my life a living HELL and boy was she sure taken aback and eating some of her words last night. ;)
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abnormalapathy
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Posted: 21 January 2008 01:09 pm |
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The weekend was a toughie. I was laying on the floor watching TV on Saturday night when I caught a glimpse of myself and how I seem to be losing any semblance of curves, which I do not like. So, I started talking to my bf on Sunday about maybe revising my goals and seeing where I am after 30 pounds rather than 50-70. I know I'd still be overweight, but I'm not sure how much more I want to do either. He started telling me that he'd been excited to see what my next change would look like, which was totally the wrong thing to say, even though he followed it up with how attractive he's ALWAYS found me to be and how he just wants me to be happy. We had this long existential conversation about how happiness shouldn't be derived from how one looks anyhow and that even though he's thin there's things about his body he doesn't like either. Therefore, weight loss isn't the end all be all I'd been thinking it would be.
I'm not giving up. I'm just re-evaluating my priorities as well as my expectations.
I didn't track calories all weekend and it's so bitterly cold here that I have no motivation to do anything that requires being outside. I did manage to re-organize the entire bedroom closet, and got rid of about 5 bags of clothes. I tried on my winter jackets from last year and they were so big that my bf told me I looked homeless. And he swore those "couldn't have been the coats from only last year." But they were, and in fact the 16 which was tight on me when I bought it in November for this season is beginning to be too large as well.
Yesterday was just a football day. What's funny about it is that my bf hates sports, but he sat around watching the games with me because he knew I missed my ex-friend that I used to watch all of the big games with. That was really sweet of him. So a big heckyeah(!!!!!) to the Patriots and the loudest boo's ever to the Giants.
21 January 2008 (1597/1369-1869)
Breakfast: 1 Quaker Oatmeal express (200/4); 1 cup mixed fruit (121/1.5)
Snack: 4 oz. carrots (47/3.2)
Lunch: Indian buffet (~680/2)
Dinner: 1 cup ww pasta (282/6.4); 4 oz turkey meatballs (267)
Water: 30 oz.
Fiber: 17.1 gLast edited on 22 January 2008 12:10 pm by abnormalapathy
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Theresa
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Posted: 22 January 2008 05:24 am |
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Hi Abby
I think you are doing great and just stick to each of your short term goals that you set for yourself. You will eventually get to a weight and a certain look in sexy jeans or so that will make you feel happy with your body, then you will know exactly what weight you want to be. Remember to be patient and that our skin takes longer to catch up to the new weight. That could be one of the reasons you are not too happy with the curves on your body. It's always better to be normal weight than overweight because of health reasons. Just remember the demotivation feeling will pass, I have also been struggling and I saw on Sky News that they say this is a time when most people are a little down and not too happy with their lot. If you are at a stage where you cannot give it 100% just give it 50% until you can again. The 100% will eventually follow again. Im rooting for you girl!
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abnormalapathy
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Posted: 22 January 2008 12:48 pm |
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Last night started out okay. A friend came over and tried on some of my formal gowns and found two that she really liked. She needs one for her sister's wedding in Hungary later this year. I made whole wheat pasta, defrosted some sauce I made a few weeks ago and made some turkey meatballs. Dinner was good. We rented "License to Wed" which was really funny.
But I was exhausted, so I went to bed around 10 and set my alarm for 11:40 so I could get up before my bf got home. I should've just stayed asleep. We ended up having another fight about one of his friends (not a girl this time, at least). The friend is very religious and he keeps I don't know, not trying to convert us, but like sending these lengthy emails about our lifestyle and our language, etc. And I'm just so angry because he, who is by no means blameless, is the last person who should be pointing any fingers at the rest of us. And my bf is torn. I don't want to be home anymore when the guy comes over, but this is my bf's oldest friend. I'm fine with the compromise, but he isn't. He feels I shouldn't have to leave when his friend comes over. And I agree, but I'm willing to do it so that he can have his friendship and I can have my sanity. But whatever, we screamed at each other til like 1 AM and now I'm good for nothing.
On the upside, I have therapy tonight and I haven't been looking towards food to fix the problem. At least I'm recognizing that eating that black and white cookie or the giant blueberry muffin isn't going to make the situation any easier to deal with.
22 January 2008 (1273/1369-1869)
Breakfast: 1 Quaker Oats Instant Baked Apple Oatmeal (200/4); 1/2 c pineapple (75/1)
Snack: 4 oz. baby carrots (40/2)
Lunch: 8 oz. split pea soup with ham (120/4); 2 oz grilled chicken breast (94); mixed salad greens (spinach, tomato, 1/2 oz feta) and 1/2 serving LF dijon dressing (97/2)
Snack: 1/2 serving Goldfish pretzels (65/1)
Dinner: 1 black bean taco (170/7); 1 chicken taco (157/1); 1/4 c rice (42/.4)
Dessert: 1 Skinny Cow ice cream (150/3)
Water: 34 oz.
Fiber: 25.4 g
Last edited on 23 January 2008 03:13 am by abnormalapathy
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jonibug
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Posted: 22 January 2008 04:52 pm |
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Wow, you have quite a sticky situation on your hands. That "Friend" would drive me INSANE! Better to take care of yourself and not put yourself through it than risk saying something that would cause hurt feelings. I'm totally projecting here, as I'm certain I would never be able keep my mouth shut! I'm all for you going for a drive and keeping your boundaries safe! No one can do it but us. Besides, you don't want to create stress and then eat through it, right?
You seem like you're doing just great! Good luck tonight!
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abnormalapathy
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Posted: 22 January 2008 08:14 pm |
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Well, the boy had a talk with his friend and it seems he's upset about some things generically - like about the world - that he can't change unless he starts the next Crusade. Anyway, I've agreed to give him another shot and the boy understands that this is it. His friend's already got two strikes and I'm looking the other way. I won't be so kind for a third. So, it seems all is fine. Something I'll bring up tonight is that I need to do more work on my communication methods. Also, I do tend to look solely at the negatives as though the positives don't exist. Ahh, if only I could tackle one thing at a time.
But no, in addition to all of that, I'm trying so hard to keep my 'diet' on track because I seem to have lost all motivation to work out. There's a few reasons, as I explained to my workout buddy...it's cold, and I hate that we spend more time getting ready to get in/out of the pool than we do working out in it. I've also been giving some thought to trying bikram yoga. I read that it takes like 10 sessions to see any noticeable difference, and I think I could live with that. And maybe I need some tropical weather to combat the bitter cold we're being blasted with. I don't know. There's a place I found where an intro week is only $20, and I spend more than that on car fare, so I suppose I could give it a shot.
Last but not least, I am getting really itchy about wanting to buy a place of our own. I'm realistic enough to know that we can't swing it when our lease is up in November, but I really want to be able to make a purchase in late 2009 when our new lease will be up. I've been doing a lot of reading on it and even though it's a big, scary commitment, we might (especially if the housing market continues to tank the way it has) be able to buy something with less than $10K cash on hand. And with school out of the way at the end of this year, that frees up over $450/month in tuition and school-related expenses. That's half the down payment right there. And who knows, if we save diligently and go wicked cheap on the remaining vacations for this year, maybe we scrape enough together to make it happen. But I doubt it and I'm trying not to get my hopes up too high, either.
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personsmom
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Posted: 22 January 2008 08:15 pm |
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OOOO Abby How I miss those Black and White Cookies.   
They make them here in FL. BUT they just aren't the same. They used to be Sun. AM treat. Go to the deli and get it fresh, take it home and relax with the coffee and newspaper. UGH Memories. And only that now.
Lee 
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abnormalapathy
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Posted: 22 January 2008 08:16 pm |
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| NO WAY, LEE! I used to live in Lakeland!!!!! (and I totally know what you mean about the cookies). :) Wow, you brought back some memories too. I was married in Lakeland back in 1997. Last edited on 22 January 2008 08:18 pm by abnormalapathy
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personsmom
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Posted: 22 January 2008 08:19 pm |
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Abby I grew up in NY Where in Lakeland I live N of the Mall. Have for 20+ yrs
Lee
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abnormalapathy
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Posted: 22 January 2008 08:21 pm |
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That is SO funny! Wow, what a small world. I haven't been back to Lakeland since like 2002 or so, but it had already changed so much in the few years since I'd been gone. There are times where I really miss the pace, and then others where I wouldn't trade living here in this crazy city for anything.
Let's see...we lived near the power plant for a while - across that big lake, but where you could see the lights from the plant twinkling all night. And then we moved over to the other side of town, near Lake Parker (according to my ex- he swears that's where we got married). It's the one with the stone walkway and big arches and the old streetlamps surrounding it. We weren't far from that Publix where they filmed part of Edward Scissorhands.
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personsmom
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Posted: 22 January 2008 09:22 pm |
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Yes it is small. Lake Parker is where the Power Plant is. Lake Miror is probably where you got married. Great place to walk during the day, evenings it's usually young people or homeless sleeping on the benches. In 2005 my D and I went to NY on a school trip. HS Band director got with a Trip Coordinator and apx 80 people went. Stayed in Manhatten and did all the tourist things. Got to show her all the "class trip" things we did as kids. Statue, Empire state bldg, Radio City. Took in Phantom and HairSpray. Lots of fun. Did a bus tour of the city and they left us at the pier. Band Director said you all have the afternoon to do as you please. Be back in time for dinner and the show. Yes we had Metro cards. Walked China Town as that was a place D wanted to see. She's VERY into the oriental thing. On the last day we were supposed to do the museum but Director said do as you please, you paid for the ticket, they have your $$ whether you go or not. Well we went to Bloomingdales instead. Not a hard decision. Got to show her REAL food. All the things we shouldn't eat.  Deli sandwiches, pretzels from a street vendor. Oh it was sooo much fun. $$ well spent. OH Yeah the kids wanted to know where Publix was. No grocery stores. Oh yes and we did one Taxi ride. One of the other adults with us said never again! She had the front seat. She was in the back on the way home. TEE HEE
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abnormalapathy
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Posted: 23 January 2008 01:36 am |
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You're right, it is Lake Mirror. Wow, in 1997 there weren't benches and there definitely weren't homeless people. So strange how things changed. But I just looked it up online and they did A LOT of work in the area...it looks totally different now. We had our reception at this historic building on the lake...it was beautiful. The marriage didn't last, but it was a nice wedding on a shoestring budget. :)
Your trip to NY sounds like it was a lot of fun. I love to play tour guide, so if you ever wanna come back, you know how to find me. :) My best friend came up in November and had never been here before and I showed her the whole city in 2 days (excluding Queens, Bronx and Staten Island, of course).
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abnormalapathy
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Posted: 23 January 2008 12:35 pm |
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I had a great talk with the boy last night and we agreed that we'd apply for a mortgage pre-approval in late summer to see if we're even eligible for one of those 0% down loans. I ran some numbers yesterday and it appears that we might (especially with the market tanking) be able to buy a place for around what we were looking to spend in rent. If that's the case then it just doesn't make sense not to go for it. I'm such a big talker. I don't even have 4 digits in my savings account. So we'll see.
I'm bracing myself for a gain when I get on the scale tomorrow. The last two times I've checked it recently, it's been as high as 199 and change again. I don't get it. The only thing I can think of is that my body is adjusting to the lower calorie days during the week and the higher ones on the weekend. Of course I haven't been exercising and I've added a few drinks into my "diet" this week, so that could also have a lot to do with it. So, bikram it is. I read that it can burn mega calories.
In a panic, I tried on the dress for the gala last night and it fits. It's tight, but it fits. I also tried on a few others I had, which are now too large, so again I'm in that strange no-man's-land otherwise known as "in between sizes". Of course I still don't have shoes, but I'm hoping to rectify that tonight.
23 January 2008 (1287/1369-1869)
Breakfast: 1 Quaker Instant Oatmeal (200/4); 3.4 oz. grapes (68/1)
Lunch: 3 oz beef short ribs (190); 4 oz polenta (80/1.1); 2 oz. chicken breast (94); 3 mini desserts (250); 1/4 cup pear and goat cheese salad, no dressing (80/0.5)
Dinner: 1 brocolli and cheese whole wheat empanada (175/1.3)
Dessert: 1 Skinny Cow ice cream (150/3)
Water: 25 oz.
Fiber: 10.9 g
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abnormalapathy
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Posted: 24 January 2008 01:22 pm |
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Well well well...I gained 2.6 pounds this week. And it makes zero sense to me, so maybe I'm in denial but I don't think I really gained that as fat. My calories, even with sweets and alcohol (which I counted in my daily calories!) weren't even near my maintenance levels, let alone even close to the 9,100 calories EXTRA I would have needed to consume in order for this to happen. I did notice that my fingers are pretty swollen, so I think I'm just retaining water as I get nearer to what should me TTOTM. In any case, I'm not so happy about it, but I'm just going to keep plugging away.
Current weight: 199.2
I found shoes for the gala last night and even better, they were on sale. Next week I'm definitely getting back on the exercise bandwagon. Maybe it has more of an effect than I give it credit for.
24 January 2008 (1513/1369-1869)
Breakfast: 1 large english muffin (140/1); 2 eggs (140); 2 slices cheese (90); 1 cu mixed fruit (80/1)
Lunch: small artisanal bread (180/2); 2 oz roast beef (120); 2 slices mozzarella (127); 1 oz cheesecake (mini!) (91); 4 oz. orzo (80/1)
Dinner: 6 oz turkey meatballs (254); 6 oz whole wheat rotini pasta (211/4.8)
Water: 17 oz.
Fiber: 9.8 g
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Theresa
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Posted: 25 January 2008 08:28 am |
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I agree that it's most likely not fat that you have gained. When I drink alcohol it always makes me retain water for some reason, and with me it can take up to 2 weeks to dissappear. Remember to just do the best that you can even if it's only eat at 200 or 300 calorie deficit and do 10 minutes of excercise a day you will not go wrong at all. It will be slower but still be losing weight in the long term.
You are still doing great so don't get down on yourself, I have also been struggling badly for these last two weeks and I keep telling myself that I WILL get back to being motivated and feeling energetic and feeling chuffed with myself soon. We will get through this!
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abnormalapathy
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Posted: 25 January 2008 12:56 pm |
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| Thanks, T. I know you're right and I'm trying not to let it get me down.
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abnormalapathy
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Posted: 25 January 2008 01:38 pm |
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Adventures in Undergaments
I have to fit into this dress tonight for our company gala. I don't have a choice because it's the dress I bought and I don't have anything else to wear. When I bought it, they only had a 14 on the rack, so I picked it up, even though it was snug. I'm in between sizes, which can be a bit frustrating. In the last few weeks, I've gained a few pounds and in my fear of not being able to wear the dress, I gave in and followed my mother's advice: go to the "old lady store."
The "old lady store" is code for this place that is run by and has always catered to "old ladies." Well, older than me, that is. My grandmother used to take me there when she needed "foundation garments" though she was thin until she hit about 70. I've never, even with all of my fat, worn anything other than a pair of panties and a bra, so this was a whole new world for me.
I explained where the dress was tight (around the bust) and they suggested I try on this strapless deathtrap they called a girdle. There were a few things working against me, but primarily it was the fitting room that was a whopping 4x4 cell. In the course of "trying on" the garment, I hit every wall with every appendage at least a half dozen times. If this were Pong, I'd have a record score. Anyway, I stood there...gasping for air...and staring in the mirror at this incredibly bizarre thing wrapped around my body, which actually made it look worse than just my regular fat.
I decide against it. But these cunning old ladies still managed to talk me into a high-waisted thing (to keep it in) and a minimizer bra. We'll see how it works. Frankly, I think you need to be a gymnast to even get into these things, at which point, you likely don't need them anyway. Oh, and ladies, don't fall for that line of crappola from Spanx. They DO roll. And again, they're insane to get into.
This public service announcement has been brought to by the letter A and the number 1. Thanks!
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Hisgal
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Posted: 25 January 2008 03:29 pm |
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Abby,
Thanks for my chuckle of the day! 
I tried something similar once. I, too, was kind of between sizes, and had the one dress that was appropriate...........and there were a few too many bulges/lines showing for it to look good! But, I went to Wal-Mart, and found this "thing" that had stays in the sides, and many hooks up the back. It covered from just under the bra to just above the bikini undies. I have to admit, once I wrestled my way into it (man, I am still chuckling about your game of "Pong" in the dressing room ), it did do the job! It did make the clingy little black dress look much better on me. Eventually, I lost the weight I needed to make it look good without it, and even got the dress to be baggy! Unfortunately, right now.............I'd probably need the "stays" again. 
Onward............and downward! Hey, don't we have an avatar for a scale? Or am I just not seeing it?
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mollymoo24
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Posted: 25 January 2008 03:48 pm |
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I laughed at your girdle story you have a great sense of humor. But in the end I hope you look nice and feel OK in your gala dress! I know about those high-waisted things, I bought one a year ago when I was going to my company function as well and my belly was bulging. It did a nice job of evening out the bulge so that the dress laid much nicer, but it was too constrictive for everyday use. Anyway I hope you have a good time tonight!!
I've gojt to go back and read more of your diary when I have time. I saw that you are going to Hungary and I am supposed to Budapest for a work conference at the end of April. Hope to catch up with you more soon.
Mol
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missfit
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Posted: 28 January 2008 11:34 am |
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Thank you for making me smile on this gloomy Monday morning. Your story rang so funny and true. I ended up buying some contraption like a girdle to slim my ab area. Really, all it did was shift the fat and made me look so unnatural. I've never worn that thing again. I'd rather my natural curves, God doesn't make junk!
Have a nice day.
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mollymoo24
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Posted: 29 January 2008 12:52 am |
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| The suspense is killing me. How was the gala?
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abnormalapathy
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Posted: 29 January 2008 01:05 am |
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I can't believe I just lost a whole entry about how the event was. Okay, so here's the Reader's Digest version. Gala was lovely. Venue was an old church. Food was divine, with the exception of the beef carpaccio I was scarfing not knowing it was raw beef. I will NEVER do that again. Dancing was fun, though we had to cut it short since I promised my bf I'd pick him up from work so we could commute home together. Oh, here's a photo of the dress sans girdles. :)
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abnormalapathy
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Posted: 29 January 2008 01:19 am |
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A More General Update
I haven't gotten on the scale because I realized it was time to change out the NuvaRing. That means crazy bloating, excessive cravings and insane mood swings. Today I bought one of those three-candy Russel Stovers hearts for 88 cents cause I knew if I didn't I'd eat a whole bag of cookies and then cry into the bottom of an empty bottle of champagne. I'm just vicious like that. Can I just say how much I hate hormones? I kind of wish I could go back to not having TTOTM like I did for the last ten years. It seems like such a dream these days.
In other news, I spent the last three days pretty much under the covers or running to the bathroom. I can only attribute that to the beef carpaccio from the gala. Anyway, it wasn't pleasant.
What was pleasant, however, was getting my taxes done. I had a great chat with my tax lady and I'm getting a fantastic return (that'll give me back like 1/4 of the money we need for the downpayment on an apt) and I know what I need to do for the next 2-3 years with school and some of my other financial matters. I like this feeling that I can control some things. I may not be able to always control my finances and things may come up unexpectedly, but I love being in a position now where I can anticipate and plan for these things and not be hit so hard when things do inevitably come up. This is a huge weight off my chest.
This is really going to be #%@&! week for me. I'm taking my ex-husband out to see a Beatles tribute band tomorrow night since we didn't hang out for his birthday. Now while that's not why my week will be #%@&!, it's kinda adding to my stress levels for the week. Work is INSANELY busy and I have nobody I can delegate to. This is seriously going to have to change soon. I can't focus on what I need to do to advance, keep my grades up, and do the menial #%@&! too. I just have to keep my eyes on the prize (i.e. summer, when we've budgeted for an intern!) Speaking of grades, this semester is already kicking my rear end. My math class alone has 4 assignments a week and it turns out it's statistics. I could cry.
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zenobia
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Posted: 29 January 2008 04:43 am |
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WOW! you look stunning in that gown!! and it sounds like you had a fabulous time! i know, i HATE it when i put a lot of time into a post and it gets lost in space somewhere. yuck.
have fun at the beatles band! just dig the music and forget everything- the beatles' music is so good for that!
sounds like you have a rough time ahead of you. wish i could take some of it off your shoulders- i can completely empathize. especially with the math part- i can't stand it! i remember i took it as a summer class and i would just be near tears before a test (i despise and loathe math, btw- just can't wrap my mind around it...)
and yes you can handle it! you are a strong woman and you will do what you need to to get through it. i know you can. just give it your best and REMEBER TO RELAX every now and then- it will do you loads of good- i promise. take care, abby- vent when you need to, ask for help when you need to and chill when you need to. it will all be alright in the end.
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suenos
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Posted: 29 January 2008 05:26 am |
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wow...I'm loving you in the dress...and I'm loving the fact that you decided to go "sans girdle" although your description was priceless...although I confess to having bought and worn a "knee to chin" girdle or two in my time.....there's something very, very twisted about the idea that undergarments are sold for women to strap/tie/bind ourselves up in to be "more attractive"...you were blessed with some killer curves that your further weight loss is only going to accentuate....
p.s...if you are 100% confident that you've been at a consistent calorie deficit, there's zero chance that you've gained any fat....if you're lifting you might have gained a little muscle tissue (yay! but not 2.6 pounds worth in a week) Most likely, you have lost fat but what's going on is (the short bus version): when the fat in a cell is burned, water is a by-product that temporarily fills the fat cell to be released later (primarily through urination)...if you have consumed a lot of sodium and/are not drinking a sufficient amount of water and/or have other causes of water retention, your scale weight can actually increase because it's reflecting both the water content in the fat cells (which hasn't yet been released) plus the water content in your other tissues that's being retained. Keep the sodium to a minimum, drink your H20, stay consistent with your diet and more likely than not in a very short time you'll see a sudden drop. I'm just throwing this out to you because I know it's frustrating and confusing when you know you're eating at a deficit plus exercising and the scale seems to be doing it's own thing anyway!
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Victor version 4.0
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Posted: 29 January 2008 01:07 pm |
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abnormalapathy wrote: Adventures in Undergaments
...................... In the course of "trying on" the garment, I hit every wall with every appendage at least a half dozen times. If this were Pong, I'd have a record score. ............
.........don't fall for that line of crappola from Spanx. They DO roll. .........
This public service announcement has been brought to by the letter A and the number 1. Thanks!
Hahahahahaha,
Yes, no matter how much fat you lose Elastic waistbands DO ROLL. I am CONSTANTLY rearranging mine!
V
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abnormalapathy
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Posted: 29 January 2008 01:28 pm |
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| Thanks Suenos, I know you're right. I got on the scale today just to "check in" and it looks like I'm back down 2.2 pounds. I won't count it "officially" til Thursday, but I'm sure you're right about the retaining water part.
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abnormalapathy
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Posted: 29 January 2008 02:01 pm |
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29 January 2008 (2126/1369-1869)
Breakfast: 1 WW whole wheat english muffin (100/6); 1 TBsp PB (90); 1 small banana (90/2.6)
Snack: 3 oz. green grapes (57/0.8); 6 oz strawberries (55/3.4)
Lunch: 1/2 turkey wrap (225/2); 1 medium apple (72/3.1); 1 cup potato salad (358/3.3)
Dinner: 8 oz burger-no bun (373); 1 cup fries (406/5.4)
Dessert: 1 slice carrot cake (300/2)
Water: 17 oz.
Fiber: 20.2 g
It's still under my maintenance calories of 2,358, so I'm okay.
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sheltiemom
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Posted: 29 January 2008 02:26 pm |
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Woo-woo, girlfriend! You looked great in your dress. The girdle story is priceless. I can never breath when I've tried to wear a girdle. Southern belles are breathless for a reason--they couldn't breathe because of their corsets. Silly, silly, silly! What we do to look good.
Congrats on the tax return and the weight loss!
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personsmom
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Posted: 29 January 2008 03:34 pm |
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| I enjoy reading your journal!! You have a way with words. Your undergarment mishaps was priceless. I have worn and sold those things. It made me LOL. The metal stays should be outlawed. Wonder if they set off airport security??? You look absolutely wonderful in the gala dress. And showing off those shapely gams below too!! You go girl. Thanks for sharing.
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abnormalapathy
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Posted: 30 January 2008 12:35 pm |
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30 January 2008 (1565/1369-1869)
Breakfast: 1 WW whole wheat english muffin (100/6); 1 TBsp PB (90); 1 small banana (90/2.6); 4 oz green grapes (78/1)
Snack: 1 medium apple (72/3.1); 1 SB granola pack (130/6)
Lunch: 2 slices WW bread (100/5); 2 oz turkey breast (60); 2 slices reduced fat American cheese (90); 1 cup cream of potato soup (150/0.5)
Dinner: 1 cup rice (230/2); 4 oz chicken breast (187); 1/2 cup black beans (114/7.5); 1/4 cup guacamole (74/1.3)
Water: 17 oz.
Fiber: 35 g
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suenos
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Posted: 31 January 2008 05:04 am |
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| Hey Abbie...this is random, but it just struck me exactly who you reminde me of in that party dress.....a young (circa mid sixties) Sophie Loren!!!!! I am dead serious....if you've never seen it, rent the movie "Houseboat" sometime and you'll see exactly what I mean.
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Theresa
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Posted: 31 January 2008 08:45 am |
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You looked really lovely in the dress. You are doing great at watching those calories so don't worry everything will fall into place soon and you will be dropping those lbs. 
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abnormalapathy
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Posted: 31 January 2008 12:08 pm |
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suenos wrote: Hey Abbie...this is random, but it just struck me exactly who you reminde me of in that party dress.....a young (circa mid sixties) Sophie Loren!!!!! I am dead serious....if you've never seen it, rent the movie "Houseboat" sometime and you'll see exactly what I mean.
LOL...thanks Suenos! I googled it, and I kinda get it. :)
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