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Theresa
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 Posted: 13 March 2008 11:13 am
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WOW! 3.4!  I am sooooo jealous.  That means I will have to really move a...! now! :wink::grin: A well deserved loss there! :apple:

 

abnormalapathy
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 Posted: 13 March 2008 02:29 pm
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Yeah, I think I lost a pound for each month I didn't lose a thing!  :)

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 Posted: 13 March 2008 03:05 pm
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Yeah...congratulations !!!! That must feel great. Does this mean you can B.......h more to lose more?:devil:

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 Posted: 13 March 2008 03:24 pm
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hoofprints wrote: Yeah...congratulations !!!! That must feel great. Does this mean you can B.......h more to lose more?:devil:

Man, I hope so!!!!!!!!

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 Posted: 13 March 2008 07:48 pm
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Okay, I have to write about this because it's killin' me.  Anyway, I was just talking to my grandmother and she asked me how WW was going and I told her that I stopped after a week because I felt deprived all the time.  So she's like, "well, you don't like salads and that's what you have to eat."

"I didn't eat salad when I was losing weight before.  And I haven't had salad this week either and I lost, finally, over three pounds."

"That's great!  Anyway, it's always hardest when you get down to the last few pounds."

"Grams, I love you.  But what planet are you on?  The last few pounds?"

"You don't have that much more to lose."

"Uhm, when was your last eye exam?"

"Recently, why?"

"No reason."  I laughed.  "Anyway, thank you, but I still have a ways to go."

"But you've lost so much already.  How thin do you want to be?  I mean, really."

"A lot thinner than I am, why?"

"I don't think you need to lose so much."

"You're biased."

"I know, I just love you too much."

Okay, that last line was probably the funniest thing I'd ever heard. It's like "you don't really have to lose any more weight cause I love you the way you are NOW" regardless of what I want or how I feel about myself.  I think this happens sometimes with the people around us.  A coworker stopped me today to say I looked great and asked what I was doing, and as soon as I said I was eating healthier and exercising, she didn't want to hear another word.  Sometimes I can't believe I was ever shrouded in such a fog, but I know I was.

Anyway, this loss gave me back the motivation I'd been missing all these weeks. Even today at lunch, we went for Chinese.  I ordered what I wanted (chow fun, light on the oil) rather than what I should have had (brown rice, steamed chicken and veggies).  But where I am usually obstinate and will eat the entire thing no matter the size because I want it and it's in front of me and I ignore the full signal, I didn't today.  I ate util I was full and then I didn't touch the fork again.  When I looked at it, I'd eaten a little less than half.

Well, more shopping this weekend.  I decided that the dress I wore to my holiday party is too 'festive' and I'll need something else to wear to my uncle's party (another big one!) in two weeks.  I also desperately need some shirts to get me through spring.  I'm going to the mall, which is a big deal for me since I rarely shop in them, only because I want to take the time to explore non-plus sized stores as well to see what they have and if anything in there fits me.

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 Posted: 13 March 2008 09:32 pm
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Great stuff abno and well done!!!!:grin:

My mother in law gives me nearly exactly the same lines as your grandma.

"Don't get too thin" etc etc
I've still got 14lb to lose

No you will be too thin.

Actually I will be just in normal weight

Is it jealousy I don't know. Incidentally she is a big weight watchers gal. With no results.

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 Posted: 13 March 2008 09:46 pm
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your doing it! your really, really doing it!:grin: and the best part of all: YOUR DOING IT YOUR WAY!  CONGRATULATIONS TO  A WINNER:grin:  NO GIMMICKS, NO FAD DIETS, JUST GOOD OLD-FASHIONED HARD WORK!  :thumbsup:

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 Posted: 14 March 2008 06:42 am
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I agree with Missfit it is definitaley due to jus plain old gashioned hard work that you are losing all your weight and that is why you WILL get to your desired weight that you want too.  :cool:   And Grams just loves you for who you are! :grin:  So don't worry you will still be loved to bits by Grams when you are nice and slim. :smile:

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 Posted: 17 March 2008 03:55 pm
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Thanks for all of the positive notes, folks!  They really help!  I didn't do too great food-wise this weekend.  The boy wanted junk food and so we had quite a bit of it.  But I did a lot of walking in the mall on Saturday and then sat around on the couch all day Sunday watching movies, so I'm not sure how much damage I've done.  I need new batteries for the scale by Thursday's weigh in too.  But I'm trying to get back on track again today, even if I haven't had any fruit yet.  I am definitely stopping at the grocery store tonight to stock up.

So, shopping....you all know by now that shopping is my nemesis, right?  Well, I am proud to report that I did not go to a single plus-sized store, nor did I shop in any plus-sized sections of other stores (like Sears or Macy's).  I went completely out of my comfort zone in terms of style, color, cut and yes, size.  I tried on every single item and I did not allow it to be enough that something fit or was on sale, it had to look really good on me too.  I had gotten to a point where I was grateful that things even  fit me at all that I sacrificed quality.  Anyway, that wasn't an issue this weekend.

I spent about three hours in the mall and tried on over 50 items.  From those items, I purchased 9.  Yes, 9. That's a pretty low percentage.  There were things I wanted to buy, but admitted that they didn't look as good as other things and just wasn't going to spend the money so I could look dumpy or sloppy just because things were comfortable (and hid me!).  I realized that I've got a really great figure emerging after years of abuse, and frankly, I don't want to hide it!

So, I purchased two new black dresses - one a sheath, which I'll wear to my uncle's party, and the other is a fitted babydoll style.  I also bought four shirts - one is turquoise (how NOT black is that?!?!?), one is a v-neck grey sweater, one is a v-neck black sweater and the other is a black linen thigh-length one.  I also bought three pairs of new PJs.  I'm so happy to say that one dress was a 16, the other was a 14 and everything else was purchased in a size large.  They all fit beautifully and should get me through the summer, even if I had another 20 pound loss - ambitious as that is, I should be okay clotheswise until fall.  And in some fit of weirdness, I bought a pair of emerald green flats from Nine West.  I am totally stoked about all of this. 

Dinner last night was london broil, sweet potato mash (with a drizzle of honey and a dash of nutmeg) and steamed brocolli.  I made another pot of "fried rice" to help me through the week.   I love cooking for my boyfriend and I only get to do so on the weekends since he doesn't eat at home the rest of the week.  So I've got plenty of decent food to get me through the week without having to worry about doing a lot of cooking.  I've got a TON of homework this week as well as a midterm.  I didn't do as well as I've had liked on my statistics exam (70%), but I can still salvage my otherwise decent grades which is reassuring.

I'm convinced that how I do with my food intake is directly related to everything else that happens in my life, so I'm trying to be very conscious of it all.  Time management was never my forte.  Additionally I'm trying a new birth control, which I'm hoping will really help balance my hormones and stop these crying and binging sessions I've had for the last few months.

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 Posted: 18 March 2008 03:19 am
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I am so happy to read your latest post.  :grin:  I had a similar experience this weekend shopping, bought clothes in a regular section of the department store, (clothes that were not black too)!  Saturday I returned a pair of pants to the Avenue and I walked out of there to my hubby waiting in the car and I said I am so glad I will never have to go in there again.  Yes!  Buying good quality clothes that have style and make you look good feels awesome!  I am really happy for you, what a positive buzzzzzzzz to keep you motivated.  Congrats!!  Mol

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 Posted: 18 March 2008 06:39 am
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It is  definately sounding like a happier you, I also feel that way when hard work pays off eventually.  :wink:  By the way, I love the baby doll style dresses myself.  I have a beautiful balck and gold one that I can't wait to fit into again one day.  Good for you on the emereld green and turquoise colours. :cool:

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 Posted: 18 March 2008 07:54 pm
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How are you?  Spring is here and it's due to snow Easter weekend, boo hiss.

Just could'nt resist posting in that place where I got my fingers burnt last time!!

This time time I'm stronger and may God forgive me!!:grin::grin::grin::grin::grin::grin:

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 Posted: 20 March 2008 01:05 pm
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Well, I gained back 1.2 pounds, so I'm back to 197.  However, I was really slack this week.  I didn't drink enough water.   I didn't exercise AT ALL.  I didn't track anything.  I ate everything in sight, so this is really to be expected.  I'm not upset about it.

The next two weeks are going to be very challenging with Easter this weekend and two parties next weekend.  But I'm just going to keep as on target as I can and make sure that I make enough time to track everything, because apparently when I don't, I can't get a handle on it at all.

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 Posted: 20 March 2008 02:45 pm
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Well you still lost over 2lbs.  I like yourself am just going to try my best this weekend but I will be probably having maintenance days, and I think the break will be good for me.  You keep on keeping on, we will get there.  Have a great easter weekend. :grin::wink:

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 Posted: 24 March 2008 01:09 am
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Hi Abby, just thought I'd check in on ya and give you some encouragement to try to track like you had hoped during this busy time.  Happy Easter!  :rabbit:

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 Posted: 27 March 2008 10:41 am
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The difference a year makes


I've been slacking off big time. I haven't exercised in I-don't-know-how-long. I haven't been drinking enough water (as evidenced by this week's hospital visit). And I haven't been counting my calories OCD-style.

But this week marks the one year anniversary of what I consider to be my "serious" weight loss journey, and since I'm a big fan of facing the facts, here they are:
-In one year, I have lost precisely 40.5 pounds (or 41, if you're kind enough to round up)
-I have gone from a size 24 at my largest, to a size 14 - a difference of 5 dress sizes
-I have lost 9.5 inches from my waist, 9 inches from my bust, 5.5 inches from my hips and 5 inches from my upper arms.
-In total, I've also lost an overall amount of 40.5 inches from my body
-Despite this week, my overall health is greatly improved (no colds, no flu, no serious illness and only one allergy attack, which was this week)
-My blood pressure is out of the you-will-need-meds-soon range and down near 120/80 where it should be
-My cholesterol is better than my boyfriend's and he's his 'ideal weight'
Now for some of the things that are more difficult to quantify, but still count:
-I ran my first 5K race this year, which is something I never thought I'd do
-I discovered that I can lift over 100 pounds with these thighs of steel ;)
-My feet no longer require a wide width shoe
-I am no longer limited to the plus sized stores or their sections
-Though I'm still big, I'm now the same dress size as the "average American woman"
-Things like tying my shoes are no longer an asthmatic project
-Overall, my body dysmorphia (while I still have a long way to go) has greatly improved
When I started this journey, I broke it down into several steps:
1. Face the facts - I needed to objectively look at my situation
2. Create a plan
3. Commit to the plan
4. Work the plan
5. Celebrate every success
6. Examine every failure
7. Achieve long-term success
A close friend asked me to help them get started losing weight, and it made me realize that I'd #%@&! near abandoned this. I was stuck around number six without continuing the other steps before it. So perhaps this request is the thing that will let me take a step back and start where it began, at step one. I may not reach my mini goal for June as it would require that I drop 25 pounds in three months, which is not only unlikely but fairly unhealthy. But I'm just going to start from the beginning and do what I can. That's all I can do.

I have a lot to show for my journey, and I'm happy that I stuck with it as long as I did. You know that line about how nothing tastes as good as thin feels? I disagree. And I still lost weight. And even though I've been off my plan for four months now, I've kept my weight fluctuations to within 5 pounds. That in itself is a major feat for me.

Here's to Year Two.

Last edited on 27 March 2008 10:42 am by abnormalapathy

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 Posted: 27 March 2008 10:56 am
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And you will see that year 2 will be even better because of all the mistakes you have learnt from in Year 1.  Well done on all that you achieved in year 1.  :grin: :cool: It will be such a triumph for me to lose 40.5lbs, and boy will I celebrate.

Abby I thought I would mention a book that you just have to read as you are studying Africa, maybe you have already.  It's called "When the crocodile eats the sun" by Peter Godwin.  This book is so true of Africa and it is exactly what happened in Zimbabwe and what is happening in South Africa at the moment, just at a slower pace as there are more whites in SA.  It is like that in all of Africa, just in different degrees of happening.

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 Posted: 27 March 2008 02:26 pm
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I will definitely check it out, Theresa.  We read so many great books in my class last semester - Monique & The Mango Rains, Return to Laughter - those were two my favorites.  There's such an interesting and diverse history and I love that the people there are challenging the stereotypes of the continent.  :)

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 Posted: 1 April 2008 08:20 pm
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abnormalapathy wrote: The difference a year makes
Here's to Year Two.

What a great post!  I'd love to hear more of your journey into year two!!

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 Posted: 15 April 2008 02:01 am
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It's been about two weeks since I've checked in and frankly, not much has changed physically for me.  Emotionally is a whole different beast.  I am still staying under the 200 pound mark and am doing so with very little difficulty.  I am not going overboard with sweets, but I'm also not NOT indulging either. 

I've had some wild mood swings as I've adjusted to this new birth control pill, but I am also starting to recognize some of the signs.  I'm also finding other ways to beat the emotional eating.  When I recognize that I'm not really hungry but want to eat because I'm bored I'll do something like chew ice or drink some water instead.  It doesn't work all the time, but sometimes it does and that has to be better than nothing.

I'm almost done reading Venuto's BFFM and I have to say that I am having a very hard time accepting the truth about myself.  I'm not so dysfunctional that I believe I'm a lucky ectomorph who has merely to take a brisk walk and watch the little bit of fat melt off.  No, I'm an endomorph and I will apparently have to sweat off every last pound.  It will not be easy and I've had a few weeks of being upset and angry about my genetics (especially because I live with and love an ectomorph who may never understand how hard I'll have to work).  Interesingly enough, much of what Venuto says are things the trainer told me for free months ago, and had I not spent so much time fighting him and actually doing it, I'd probably have lost another 50 pounds by now.

So, I'm still working out all of the math (it's sooo not my forte), but I'll be creating something along the lines of a medium carb diet if that makes any sense.  I likely will not have much rice, pasta, or white flour and will look to get my carbs from fruit and veggies since now that I like them again I refuse to give them up.  Plus, I don't think any diet that asks you to isn't worth its weight anyway.  And I'm going to have to reconcile how I feel about exercise with the fact that I will simply have to do it - and a very large amount of it - to reach my goals.

Speaking of goals, I have promised myself that when I lose another 50 pounds I will treat myself to a tummy tuck.  So, there's a new motivation for me.

In other news,  I am doing okay.  I've not been nearly as depressed and things with the boy have been more on an upswing as of late, stupid boy tricks aside.  Work has been intense and I've been working 50-60 hour weeks.  I'm struggling to get through it all and I know that if I were worrying about what I was eating and trying to fit exercise in too right now I'd be at the hospital again for exhaustion (like I was a few weeks prior).  A free yoga class begins at work this week and I won a spot, so that's one less thing to worry about for the next 12 weeks.  Volunteering is going well too, but of course everyone is asking me if I'm not taking on too much.

Europe is now only SIX weeks away and I could not be happier.  There's plenty of hiking in Sopron and since my friend and I will be tourists in Vienna and Bratislava, there will be plenty of walking there too.

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 Posted: 15 April 2008 06:09 am
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:apple:It's so good to hear from you again Abby.  It sounds like you are doing a little research on your dieting and eating.  That's brilliant.  You are preparing and getting all your facts down to help you along.  Great stuff on keeping under the 200's.  It's my aim as well at the moment.  If I can't get lower faster at the moment I just don't want to get any higher! :grin:  I am sure that you are so excited about your upcoming trip in six weeks.  I am so jealous!  I just love travelling and hope to be able to travel to another continent besides Africa someday.

Well done on sticking to the fruit and veggies and good choices.  Keep it up. We WILL get there :turtle::grin::snail::cool:

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 Posted: 21 April 2008 05:31 pm
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I feel like everything has been a blur and that updating here was a lifetime ago, though I see that it wasn't.  I have some sad news.  My father passed away on 15 April.  It was a total shock because though he had just come home from the hospital he seemed like he was perfectly fine.  I'm a bit numb right now.  Food has been the last thing on my mind.  I eat when I see that it is "time" to eat or when people ask "have you eaten?" and not really when I'm hungry.  When I do eat, I still have a big appetite.  Of course that hasn't changed.

I feel very lost.  My mother has been a big help to me through all of this (they divorced when I was about 5). 

I bought a bike yesterday after about two years of saying I would do it and never actually following through.  It's a boys bike because (a) I'm too short for an adult bike and (b) all the girls bikes were pink or purple and I prefer neither.  The boy and I went on a short ride yesterday.  He crapped out early and we only did 1.5 miles.  I'm going to ride over to my friend's house tonight to hang out - that's 2.7 miles each way.  Hopefully I'll make it.  :)

I'm still planning to start a modified BFFM type plan on 1 May.  So many people came to me at the wake to tell me how great I looked and how proud my dad was that I lost so much weight.  So I really want to keep up with that.

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 Posted: 21 April 2008 05:42 pm
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I'm really sorry to hear about your Dad...that must be very hard for you. You're in my thoughts. Great news on the bike...especially now that's it's starting to feel like spring!

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 Posted: 21 April 2008 07:50 pm
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Abby,

   Sorry to hear about the loss of your father :crying:  It's hard to lose a parent anytime, but I think it's especially hard when it's unexpected.   You have no time to mentally prepare for the loss.   Hang in there :thumbsup:

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 Posted: 22 April 2008 06:39 am
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My thoughts are with you and a big Hug for you all the way from deep dark Africa.:bear:

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 Posted: 22 April 2008 01:38 pm
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Abby, I'm so sorry to hear about your father.  I'm at a loss to find words of real comfort.  I lost mine 6 years ago May 8, so it's getting near the "anniversary."  Seems like it's hitting me harder this year than usual.  We will always miss them, won't we?  We just have to remember the good things they taught us (and forget the bad, hah!)  My dad lived life on his own terms and to the fullest.  Sometimes he lived so hard, it seemed reckless to me.  I suppose that is part of his legacy to me.  Live life to the fullest and on my own terms.  I'm trying!  Sounds like you are, too.

I was interested to read that you, too, are a "shorty" and will have to exercise forever.  Me, too.  I think we've both come a long way just since I've been here at the forum.  Geez, I'm even walking and working out now.  At first I would read your post and be so jealous of you and of MM for exercising so much.  Hey, I'm doing it now myself.  Apparently I am not as "washed up" as I thought I was and there is hope for losing ALL the weight I need to lose.

Hang in there and keep up with your plans for the next 50#.  You can do it!

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 Posted: 22 April 2008 04:42 pm
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Thanks to everyone for their kind words and prayers.  They mean a lot.

I ended up NOT riding my bike to my friend's house last night, but then I was disappointed that I didn't even try.

I'd like to try to get to the fruit/veggie store tonight on my way home from work.  I'm on this new kick that I want to buy more local produce - which can be difficult and pricey in NYC - but at the very least want things with less packaging.  In general I haven't been eating red meat all too often lately and have found that I'm averaging 2 out of my 3 main meals per day as vegetarian.  It hasn't been intentional, but I'm sure it's helping.

My gym membership at the Rec Centre ended, but I still have the free gym at work.  When I get back from Europe, the open swim (free) will start up again so I probably won't renew it until next winter.  I thought about joining a gym that had classes but then I feel like that's a waste since I can already go to the gym, now have a bike, still have my roller skates and can always WALK if I really needed a workout.  The boy mentioned something about taking up karate together, which I think would be fun, though I'm more interested in mixed martial arts or boxing.  We'll see if we can find a compromise.  Even a once-a-week class might be fun.

There's a possibility we may move before our lease is actually up, and if that's the case, we'll likely have a bigger living room - which means MORE exercise equipment and room to actually use it!

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 Posted: 23 April 2008 05:45 am
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How about Tai Bo, it looks fun and has the boxing you like :cool:

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 Posted: 24 April 2008 07:24 pm
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Just caught up on your diary.  First of all, deepest sympathies on the loss of your father.  You are in my prayers.  Be sure to take care of yourself.

Secondly, you're doing quite well maintaining and have accomplished loads in one year so don't even think about beating yourself up.  Be proud.  I know we all are.  You've been such an inspiration to all of us.

Take care, my NY friend.

DG

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 Posted: 25 April 2008 12:48 am
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oh I'm so glad I came to catch up....First I am so sorry about your dad. I'm glad you got to hear how proud he was of you!
Second....OH am I EVER happy you went shopping and got cute clothes in regular stores. That ROCKS!!!
It was great to read about your year, it puts it all in perspective doesn't it? Look how darn far you have come.

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 Posted: 26 April 2008 02:31 am
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Abby, I've only just caught up on your diary and want to say that am sorry to hear about the loss of your father.:rose::rose:

 

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 Posted: 26 April 2008 11:25 am
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Abby, I hope you are having a very happy Saturday!

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 Posted: 30 April 2008 01:04 am
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Hey .... hope all is going well. Just wanted to pop in and let you know I was thinking about you.

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 Posted: 30 April 2008 03:28 am
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hey abbey

i just got back.. doing the whole catching up business... i am SOOOOOO sorry.  it's rough, i know. you are in my thoughts.  i guess i really can't say anything that hasn't already been said, but really, know that there are many people thinking of you and sending you their best. 

take care. 

~zen

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 Posted: 30 April 2008 04:54 am
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Hey Abbey....this is a bit belated because I just got caught up on you but I wanted to say I'm really sorry about your loss and you and your family are in my prayers.

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 Posted: 30 April 2008 06:25 am
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We really really miss you and hope that you are ok. :smile::bear:

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 Posted: 30 April 2008 07:01 pm
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I'm hanging in there, folks.  There was a bit of a shock with the will and now a lot of arguing and hurt feelings.  I've been okay, I guess.  Okay, I'm rather depressed, as I expect most people would be.  I haven't been eating so great, when I eat at all, but I'm within 5 pounds of where I was in December when I essentially stopped 'dieting'.  So I don't mind.

I'm on the softball team at work.  I ride my bike 1-2 nights a week.  I dropped the yoga class, but am looking for something to replace it.  And tomorrow starts the 'new plan' that I haven't even finished creating yet. 

I'll be okay.  In time.

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 Posted: 1 May 2008 01:04 pm
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We didn't just lose our first softball game last night, we were slaughtered 11-2.  But I had a really great time.  I forgot how much I used to love to play.  My first time up at bat, I hit the ball, but both of my calves seized up and I couldn't run.  The second time, I struck out, and the third time I hit the ball, but the pitcher caught it.  Shucks.  I'm a bit sore today, but not as bad as I thought I would be.

I talked to the trainer at the gym here at work and he cut me a deal on training sessions, so I'm going to stop complaining and just do it.  I mean, I spend more than that a week on car service.  And like I told him last night, I never worked out as hard as the one time I did do a session with him - not before then and certainly not since.  He was telling me one client wore one of those HRM during the workout and he did an interval circuit type thing with him; the guy burned ~500 calories in 30 minutes.  Now THAT is worth my time and money, for sure.

It's Day One on the "new plan" (that hasn't been finalized), which means I'll go back to eating the way I used to with a few modifications.  It's going well so far.  Meal 1 was a light multigrain English muffin (100/8) with 1 TBsp natural PB (90); Meal 2 was a packet of instant oatmeal (150/3).  I've had a half litre of water - the goal is for 2 L per day, at least.  Meal 3 was 2 cups rice, 6 oz. chicken breast, tzaziki sauce.  I'm still only at a half litre.  Gotta work on that.

Edit:  I had another chat with the trainer at our gym and he cut me an even better deal - 3 sessions a week for the price of ONE.  How can I say no to that?  He wants me to buy a Polar F6 before our first session on Monday and lent me his copy of Nancy Clark's "Sports Nutrition Guidebook".  He wants me to get a head start on reading it before our first session, but suggested I get my own copy.

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 Posted: 2 May 2008 05:58 pm
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I've been at the point of pulling my hair out trying to do something nice for my boyfriend for his upcoming 30th birthday.  I took the day off work and wanted to book a helicopter ride above the downtown skyline, but he's basically nixed every idea I've had.  I can't get through to Mario Battali's restaurant to make a reservation,  and I'm getting really frustrated.  So...I made a reservation at a place he co-owns with another chef and we'll spend the day meandering the city, maybe take one of those "Duck Tours" and I'll get him some electronics since that's his first love anyway.

Food has been okay.  Exercise/training begins Monday.

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 Posted: 3 May 2008 01:59 pm
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I can't wait to hear how the trainer does....how exciting for you! Have fun touring the city. Happy birthday to your BF.

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 Posted: 5 May 2008 06:59 am
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Good for you on the new plans and gym.  It's great to see your posts again, we were missing you. :grin::wink::cool:

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 Posted: 5 May 2008 01:53 pm
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I finally decided to take my head out of the sand.  I stepped on the scale today (since today is Day One of training) and was not pleased.  I am back to 204.  Okay, okay, it's not horrible but that weight hasn't been a steady creeping that's happened, it's like a sudden balloon of 4-5 pounds in the last few weeks.  I've had a lot of stress with my dad's passing, relationship stress, work stress, school stress...so it makes sense.  And now I'm ready to do something about it.

I stopped by the deli this morning and bought an egg white sandwich on whole wheat bread for breakfast.  I paired that with fruit salad and a half litre of water.  I bought a sandwich for lunch - peppercorn turkey on a 7-grain roll with lettuce and tomato.  It was far more expensive than I thought it would be so it's the motivation I needed to get myself to the grocery store so I could start packing this stuff with me again.

I don't know if I'll make it to tonight's softball game.  I'm not feeling up to it with everything else that's going on and I have NO idea how I'll feel after the training session today.  Also, today begins the new challenge at the gym - EcoFit - making your workouts more eco-friendly.  Should be fun!

Edit:  Something's up with the trainer and he'll be out for a few days.  I'm going to try to be diligent, but we'll begin training next week.


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 Posted: 5 May 2008 02:00 pm
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You just start focusing again Abby! I remember in December when I got under the 200's and then after my holiday I was 204 again as well  :shock:, it was a pain but I got under that 200 again as I know that you will again soon.  We will stumble at times but we are strong enough to get up and going again. :grin: :snail::apple:

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 Posted: 6 May 2008 01:40 pm
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I went for a bike ride last night when I got home.  It was only 4.62 miles in 30 minutes but it knocked me out for the night.  I headed down to the water, but instead of following the relatively flat bike path right along the harbor, I took Shore Road which has some hills (the elevation only went from 7ft-68ft overall, but it killed me because they weren't low inclines).  I had to walk my bike up once or twice as well.  Anyway, I got on my way and traveled out past the Verrazano Bridge, hung out by the water for a brief rest and then came back home.  I even carried my 45 lb bike up the stairs to the overpass.  It was a rather funny scene because I was carrying my bike while some other guy was walking it up the stairs, like wheeling it, and he gave me a look like I was crazy when I passed him.  C'est la vie.

I got home and went right to bed.  I slept for a half hour til my boyfriend called, then fell back to sleep until about 10 PM.  I had dinner, then showered and then went back to bed.  Seriously!  I woke up still kinda tired this morning.  I hope I can get some energy here soonl this is ridiculous.

Meal 1 was a light english muffin with 1 TB peanut butter.  Meal 2 was a toasted sesame bagel with 1 tsp orange marmalade and a banana.  I've had 0.5 litre of water, and I've had about 4 oz. of V8 strawberry banana juice.  I won't be buying it again.  It's too sweet, even though it says they didn't add any sugar to it.  Meal 3 was a salad (beets, lettuce, olives, carrots, cukes, ff dressing) and a buffalo chicken wrap.  Snack was "fun size" Twix, Reese's and Almond Joy (~170 cal).  I'm up to 1 litre of water for the day.

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 Posted: 6 May 2008 02:15 pm
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You go girl! :grin:

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 Posted: 8 May 2008 01:31 am
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Don't kick yourself....you are back on track, not a problem for someone as determined as you....

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 Posted: 8 May 2008 01:59 pm
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Yesterday was my boyfriend's birthday, so we threw all of the itineraries out the window and just had a fun day acting like tourists in NYC.  He's lived here most of his life and I've been here about half of mine already, but we've never done the touristy things except when we've had people visit, which is far too rare, I must say.  We started the day with homemade pancakes - regular and blueberry - because I'm just a super girlfriend.  Meal 1 was 2 regular pancakes and 2 blueberry, 1 TBsp Promise light spread and 2 TBsp syrup.  A while later we headed into Manhattan and had lunch at Harbor Lights, overlooking the Brooklyn and Manhattan bridges.  Meal 2 was an arugala and beet salad with macadamia nut coated goat cheese in a pomegranate vinaigrette.  Yum!  I watched on in envy while he enjoyed a sirloin burger and french fries, I might add.

We took a narrated tour of the harbor and it was the perfect day for it.  The sun was shining and the water wasn't too choppy.  Then we meandered through a local bookstore - Strand - but didn't purchase anything.  I was mad because if I would have waited a few days, I'd have picked up my copy of Richard Dawkins' "The God Delusion" for about $4 cheaper.  C'est la vie.  Then it was off to J&R to search for a cable; turns out they didn't have it.  We took the train up to Central Park and stopped in the Apple store to see if they had the cable, but they didn't either.  Meal 3 was a Lifesaver ice pop (90 cal).  We strolled through the park for hours, walking several miles, relaxing and sunning ourselves on a giant rock for a while as well.  We ended up at 72nd and Central Park West near Strawberry Fields.  Then we took the bus back down to midtown. 

Manhattan busses are one of the best ways to see the city, and when I have nowhere I need to be in any rush of a timeframe, I love to start in Harlem and just take the bus all the way downtown as far as it goes.  It takes hours, costs $2, and gives you glimpses of the city you'll never see on one of those hop-on hop-off tours.  My favorite NYC secret, there you have it.

Back down to Times Square, which as a native NYer I despise.  I wanted to scream out to people to go back to Minnesota (no offense to those of you who are from or live there), but there's just SO many people and getting anywhere is a hassle.  I bought some music at Virgin Records and then we had dinner at Becco's - one of Lidia Bastianich's restaurants.  It was amazing, but here's where my food for the day goes all downhill  :)  Meal 4 was 3 small slices of bread, 3 skinny breadsticks, 1 TBsp white bean spread with extra virgin olive oil, ~15 mixed olives, mixed greens salad with fresh parmegean, butter beans and chickpeas, a butter bean side dish and a giant piece of osso buco - probably 6-8 oz at my best guess.  I also had a glass of prosecco and two sips of my boyfriend's sparkling red wine.

Because no birthday would be complete without a cake and my terribly sappy rendition of "Happy Birthday", I stopped to get him a cake at a fantastic local bakery-Paneantico.  Since his favorite cake is cheesecake, I picked on that had mixed fruit on top.  It was as delicious as it looked.  Meal 5 was a slice (~1/8th of a ~9" cake) of cheesecake.  We ate said cake while relaxing on the couch watching, of all things, Ice Age in high-def.

A few notes...my feet are killing me.  This is because instead of wearing something practical, I wore not one, but two dresses and for the beginning of the day, flat sandals.  I then bought a pair of ballet flats which were no better for my already aching feet.  I also, thanks to one of the dresses being polyester and it being a rather warm NYC day, have one of the worst cases of chub rub known to man.  It looks like I got slapped on the thighs with softballs thrown at 90 mph.  Yeah, more info than necessary?  It hurts!  Fortunately I was smart enough to wear pants today, so hopefully that will help.  Unfortunately it makes me not want to work out because it will only exacerbate the problem. 

I'm trying hard to correct yesterday's evening indulgences.  Meal 1 today was 2 eggs on an english muffin with a slice of cheese, 1/2 cup mixed fruit, 1 large banana.  This was to prevent me from snacking mid-morning as I usually start digging around for food about now and it's never for the things that are good for me.  I've had 1.5 litre of water so far.  Almost at that goal and it's not even 2PM yet.  Meal 2 was a colorful salad (beets, chickpeas, carrots, cukes, lettuce, feta with ff dressing) and a ham sandwich on ciabatta bread.  Stupid carb craving.  My lunch was basically bread and a salad.  Snack was a Twix bar (280 cal).  Meal 3 was a quarter cup mashed potatos, a quarter cup mixed veggies and 5 oz. roasted chicken breast, skinless.  Dessert was a slice of cheesecake a little smaller than the last one.  Snack was a plain greek yogurt (I didn't want to eat this because I despise yogurt but suffice it to say I have a condition whereby eating this will help improve it.  blech!)

I'll be happy when all of this dessert is gone (i.e. after mother's day)...it's too tempting for me.

 

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 Posted: 8 May 2008 02:26 pm
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It sounded like a lovely day and you made an effort to keep to the healthy stuff, well done:cool:

My daughter is a total Richard Dawkins fanatic, I know that she has also read the God delusion.  She is also an up and coming scientist, will have her title hopefully at the end of 2009. :grin:  Very proud of my beautiful clever baby, although I haven't the foggiest where she got her brains from:tongue:.

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